Shells from a Beach

Stories of life, love, and learning

Welcome!

This blog was sparked in text conversations with a friend who told me I write “beautifully” amidst discussions that helped me reclaim myself. Then, it was like dominoes: multiple friends stopped me to say that my writing was beautiful. I thought “I’m not a writer, I’m a mathematician…” but, in truth, I write a lot. I type my notes for classes to ensure that the conceptual understanding is clear, I journal things, I take forever writing emails because my words mean something to me.

Their words grabbed me. I feel vulnerable sharing my writing, but I want to share the work I’ve done in the hope that others can benefit from it. I hope you enjoy my words. I hope you find ways to reclaim yourself, love yourself, and spark the light inside you.

Love, -S.

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  • Goodbye… for now

    It’s been two years of posts every Friday and now life is shifting in a new direction for me. I have another blog idea that I need to shift my attentions to – one that’s in line with my degree and career. I may post here, occasionally, but I can no longer commit to a

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  • Sensitivity

    I’ve been called “sensitive” my whole life. I pick up on far too much and a lot of people don’t like that. I’ve literally trained myself to let things go… to the point that I don’t like how I’ve been living. I had to take an “it doesn’t matter” approach to almost everything except basic

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  • Catharsis

    Catharsis: the process of releasing, and thereby providing relief from, strong or repressed emotions. My last post was leading into catharsis. Let’s talk about it. We know already that repressing our emotions is never going to make them go away. We have to face them. We have to learn from them, grow from them, and then release

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  • Learning

    I’m always happier when I’m learning something new. Our brains do not do well in stagnation. We may find ourselves in a rut without realizing it, unhappy and dissatisfied with life. Something as simple as learning a new skill can change our brains. New experiences or changes to our routines can be a struggle, but

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  • Can’t Help Everyone

    It’s never our job to help someone, but people like me certainly try. I have written about this before, but most people have to help themselves. We stand outside the world inside of them; we are just support, we can’t do the work for them. All change requires some amount of pain and work. Until

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  • Time

    Everything in life… comes in time. I sometimes feel that the most painful truth of existence is that we must always find patience with time. We cannot change our pains, we cannot fix our problems, we cannot heal without time. The time of processing, working, and healing is treacherous and frustrating. Yet, time is all

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  • Intuition

    We all have some level of intuition. I have to listen to my intuition. I find that my intuition is not the loud voice telling me what to do, it’s always the soft voice with gentle warnings and nudges. It’s far harder to listen to the intuition when our conscious minds are so busy that

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  • Selves

    In the drum of our day-to-day lives, I think we often go into autopilot. So much of our person has already been defined by our pasts that we just carry on as we have without thought or worry of whether it’s who we want to be. One of the things I’ve been dealing with in

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  • Healing

    Hurt people will hurt people. Unfortunately, healed people can’t do the healing for those that are hurt. Hurt people have to make the choice to heal. I cannot hold someone’s hand and heal them, the best I can do is hold their hand while they heal themselves on their own terms, at their own pace.

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  • -amory

    There are so many forms of love and relationships in this world. Monogamous relationships have been the socially-accepted standard for a long time. When I left my second marriage, I decided to explore polyamory and work on the emotional intelligence required for ethical non-monogamy. Long story short: I’m capable of polyamory, but I lean more

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